Mostly fed by popular culture, a false and negative narrative has been created around penis size. There is the old adage, bigger is better, referring to everything from fast food to SUVs. It’s an American tradition. This has led to some men developing insecurities over their penis size. According to a Medical News Today article, the average penis size is most likely 12.9–13.97 cm (5.1–5.5 in) when erect, and leans toward the smaller end. Additionally, a flaccid penis is normally smaller than it is when fully erect, goes another adage, grower not a shower.

Taking pop culture into consideration, one of the big purveyors of sexual misrepresentation is pornography. Let’s all remember, porn is fantasy. Yes, the term big dick can be found in all its semantic varieties on porn site search analytics. But well-endowed adult actors are part of a surprisingly small percentage of the population and paid to show it off. Pornography is escape but should never be considered reality. When one is being erotic with a man, the penis really can be any size to rouse stimulation of the clitoris or the prostate. Additionally, in one study 77% of females, claimed on a questionnaire that penis length is unimportant.

The size of the penis and its ability to please is more about the couple and compatibility. One size doesn’t fit all when it comes to sex. One gay male Rest Stop Shop employee has had experiences with a variety of sizes and can confidently say that it truly doesn't make a difference. “If I was attracted to the guy it really didn’t matter, I wanted to be close to him regardless.” Our employee admits. This is monumental coming from a demographic that certainly fetishizes phallus size. There’s pleasure to be had in all, the large and the small. This is evident in the variety of dildo sizes available out there. Someone is buying them! Big or small, they all have their place.

The biggest issue with small penises is due more to individual mental stigma. One individual, the receiver, is told and believes the bigger the better, shunning an opportunity to experience a truly gifted lover. The other, the giver, is weighed down by their society instilled belief that they are undesirable because of their penis size and this can lead to serious lack of confidence which may breed all sorts of negative emotional and behavioral outcomes. As with anything, and especially when dealing with insecurities, communication with your sexual partner is key. You may be surprised to know you are far more than the size of your penis in your lover’s eyes. Additionally, let’s open our minds and give the penises of the world, no matter their size, a chance to rock ours.